Elihu Eli El is one of our extended members. Our hearts and prayers go out to him.
Dear Sir or Ma’am
My name is Elihu Eli El. I currently live in Gaithersburg, MD. I can not afford
an attorney. Can you help or direct me to the best group possible? I am the father
of Kaylyn Elise El. The case number is DV-2000-5967 out of Judge Gray’s court of
Pulaski County, AR. I love my daughter. She motivates me to strive to achieve more
than I would if she was not in my life. She is “The Kaylyn.” I am formally requesting
that this case be handed over to a different judge. I pray that this case is given
to another judge. My ex-wife, Erica is not acting like someone that most courts
would believe to be a reasonable person. The court assumes that she is a reasonable
and outstand lady. Not all people think logically and reasonable. I live in the
Washington metropolitan area. While living in West Virginia, I drove 14 hours to
bring Kaylyn back to Arkansas in 2003. I stopped at a hotel for rest in Illinois
and visit friends and family whom have never seen Kaylyn. I called Erica in order
to ask her if I could bring back Kaylyn a day later during the day. I called from
the hotel. Erica stated that if I did not have Kaylyn back at home by the midnight,
then she would call the police and report me for kidnapping. I did bring her back
at 9:00 PM that night. Erica knows that the court can not explicitly state all situations
that we may encounter. She exercises her rights even if the action is unethical.
Laws express what we have rights to do. Ethics and morals express what the right
thing to do is. We all have to deal with ethical dilemmas. Prior to our divorce,
Erica was prescribed Effexor (http://bipolar.about.com/cs/experience/a/sfe_effexor.htm),
which is a drug given to manic and bi-polar depressant patients. I believe that
Judge Gray’s court is familiar with complex philosophical and ethical issues. I
took off work during the week of Thanksgiving 2003. I drove 14 plus hours to Arkansas
to spend the holiday with family. I arrived that Monday and had planned to see Kaylyn.
Kaylyn was at home and Erica did not allow me to see my daughter during my visit.
She stated the rules of visitation gave her the right to keep me from seeing my
daughter, but it doesn’t take in consideration that I may be in Arkansas during the
holiday. The long drive back to West Virginia was horrible. Most normal adults
can’t imagine a grown man crying for hours at a time. Now I know by experience what
my aunts meant when they would say,”…that’s a crying shame.” This form of in-justice
in modern day America is truly a “crying shame.” Lawmakers and representatives ignoring
this problem is a “crying shame.” During the pre-civil rights era, many people did
not believe that African-Americans were human beings. Again, “I am a human.” I have
feelings. I have high aspirations. Some in society show images of African-American
males lacking feelings, morals, compassion and kindness. The law stated that all
men are created equal, but what actually occurs greatly differs from the intent of
the law. What is actually occurring greatly differs from the intent of the court.
I flew into town a day before Christmas. She knew that I was coming in town to
see Kaylyn. It was designated by the divorce decree that I see Kaylyn Christmas
of 2003. Erica intentionally departed to Hot Springs Christmas morning without calling
and letting me know. I met with Little Rock police officers at her apartment. She
was in Hot Springs visiting her in-laws and had taken Kaylyn with her on approximately
7:30 AM Christmas morning. My mother passed away when I was only 12 years of age.
I am the parent that my mother would be to me. My mother lived a short time on
Earth without taking a simple two-week vacation. I want to take that two-week vacation
for her. She did not own a house. I will buy a house someday. In Nehemiah chapters
3 through 4 explains how he built the walls. He remained determined while evil people
wanted him to stop. Sir or Ma’am I am determined for Kaylyn to be the best that
she can be. I am determined to love my daughter and be in her life. Erica’s actions
reflect that she is not saved. Some people call it ethics, but I call it salvation.
The existence of salvation is contingent upon there being some sort of unsaved state
from which the individual is to be redeemed. She acts as if she in not saved. Salvation
will not allow Erica to do some of the things that she does. She has caller ID and
does not answer the telephone leaving me to go days without talking to Kaylyn. She
goes out of town and does not let me know who is taking care of Kaylyn. The justice
system that supported the segregation of African-Americans is the same justice system
that gives her the right to throw salvation out the window and do as she does. The
people elect judges whom reflect the ideas and norms of society. I need to communicate
dates and times to Erica and she does not want to speak to me over the telephone.
She does not readily return telephone calls to my relatives. I called her yesterday
in order to discuss Kaylyn’s health coverage. My insurance does not cover her in
Arkansas. Erica refuses to talk to me and hangs up in my face. No one likes to
be hung up on when they are just trying to do what is right. My Aunt Winnie immediately
called her afterwards and Erica refused to answer the phone. She immediately and
rudely asked me why I was calling her and stated that she would not have answered
to phone if the caller ID would have shown that the call was from me. These are
not the actions of a saved person. After school, my daughter simply looks at TV
and plays with her playstation. The amount of child support that I pay is excessive
for a child whom is not active in any activity outside of school and does not have
her own bedroom as contrary to what Erica said before the court in February. Based
on my daughter’s unique situation, I requested that my child support payment reflect
Kaylyn’s actual child expenses. Prior to picking up Kaylyn at McDonald’s, I asked
Erica not to allow her husband Jeffrey Bryant to make the exchange with Kaylyn. I
had spoken to both Jeffrey and Erica at 10:00 AM while they were in Hot Springs and
Jeffrey stated that he would bring her back when he got good and ready. He makes
gestures and tries to insult me in order to cause a physical fight to occur. We
met at McDonald’s at 7:30 Christmas night and he stepped out of the car with Kaylyn
and pushed her to me. He began to be verbally offensive in a futile attempt to cause
a physical confrontation. The police officer had to physically jump between us to
keep us separated. He showed up the next night and the same thing occurred. Meanwhile,
Erica did not attempt to exit his vehicle. She wants evil things to happen. There
are report numbers for the Christmas weekend confrontations with Jeffrey Bryant right
in front of my daughter. Little Rock Police department numbers: 03-1601816 & 03-1611202.
I should not be forced to deal with this guy in order to see my daughter. What
has she got to lose? She wants me out of Kaylyn’s life by all cost. On 14DEC03,
I was told by my Command Sergeant Major to pack up and immediately report to my unit
in order to leave for Iraq. The first thing I did was call Kaylyn. I could not
keep back the tears. I told Erica what I was just told and her she responded with,”
what that have to do with me.” That really hurt. I had a cousin to get killed in
Iraq as well as a soldier from my former unit. I was blessed and ETSed the following
month. She sent Kaylyn to me with very little clothes. She packed her only pair
of Sunday shoes as mixed matched, so I bought her new shoes and other clothes. She
does not answer any of my questions relating to Kaylyn. What does she have to lose?
Just being evil. I request that we conduct telephonic review and adjustment hearing
in order to expedite the review and adjustment process and avoid hearings if possible.
“The people” don’t want this activity rewarded by any court. My ex-wife has conditioned
Kaylyn to say,” Mama said that if I can’t answer a question, then it’s not going
to be answered.” That is some sick psychological stuff that no 8 year old should
be forced to repeat. During the two months that I kept Kaylyn the following occurred:
I paid for her day care and day camp;
I paid for both of our flights;
I paid 100% child support;
I paid for her gymnastics and dance classes.
Although I have paid over $400.00 per month in health insurance covering both Kaylyn
and myself, Kaylyn has never been taken to a doctor or dentist until I had her examined
by a doctor last summer and a dentist this past summer. I paid this in addition
to $700.00 of child support each month. We both enjoyed her gymnastics and dance
classes. All her mother seems to do is place her in front of the TV or playstation.
I pray that the court consider my financial contributions in determining future
child support. Her mother and step-father barely work. There are 3 other children
in their home. Kaylyn shares a room with the twins. How can anyone come to the
decision that it is in Kaylyn’s best interest that she remains with her mother? Outside
of the court system and in the “real world,” I have asked many people this question.
There has not been a single human being to express that my daughter is better off
living in her current conditions with her mother. I reference the Administrative
order number 10 of the Arkansas child support guidelines from the Supreme Court of
Arkansas opinion that was delivered January 22, 1998, there is a section that covers
deviation considerations. I ask that the court rebut presumption that the amount
of child support calculated by the Family Support Chart. It is sufficient in my
case to rebut the presumption that the amount of child support calculated is not
appropriate. There is strong and common sense justification to veer from the Family
Support Law. I have to pay thousands of dollars just to see my daughter and when
I do, I have to endure insults and harassment. Kaylyn is covered by my insurance,
but my insurance caters to people near the Mid-Atlantic east coast. She has not
told my Aunt Winnie if Kaylyn is covered by family coverage nor is she capable. The
initial divorce is very generic. Generic rules are useless when dealing with one
party that is acting unreasonably. Although many situations we encounter would be
worked out with common sense, Erica repeatedly uses the wording of the divorce decree
to unfairly take advantage of her position. If it benefits her, she discusses the
matter. If the situation would benefit Kaylyn or me, she may hang up in my face
or say that it's not in the divorce decree. I believe that mothers should have some
special considerations, but she should not be allowed to abuse the system at the
cost of others. My rent is $925.00 per month. The average one bedroom exceeds $1000.00.
I am here for work. The right thing to do is to subtract my work expenses prior
to setting child support. Access rent amount due to rent in Northern Virginia is
$400.00. One hundred dollars should be subtracted from my income for one week prior
to applying any child support rules. Ma’am $60,000 is barely making it for Northern
Virginia. I tried looking for a job in Arkansas with little success. Some people
exercise the premise of separation of church and state when it is convenient for
them. Erica abuses the wording of the decree when it is convenient to her. I have
spoken to local political figures as well as the clergy and they all can't believe
that someone can be assumed to be a reasonable and logical parent by doing these
things. I am planning to attend a Black Caucus event two weeks from now and I will
find out what measures need to be taken to discourage people like Erica from abusing
the law. During the last trial before Judge Gray’s court, the matter of Kaylyn being
kicked out of her bedroom to let her new husbands 15 years old boy live in her room.
I have not met a single person alive that was not strongly disturbed by that decision.
I am disgusted by the gross negligence of Judge Gray’s court not professionally
address the issue. Erica responded by stating that she was going to buy a house.
This implies that she is going to provide a bedroom for Kaylyn. She bought the
house using the access money from my child support and she still does not have her
on room. My God, what is really going on? Do have something personally against
me? Is Judge Gray trying to balance the discrimination gap between women and men?
Does Judge Gray feel that many men get away with so much that she should balance
injustice at Kaylyn’s and my expense? I paid Steven Davis $1500.00 in order to address
these issues. He obvious deceived me. Immediately following the decision of Judge
Gray’s court, Mr. Davis said that he did not want to represent me. If I had known
that child support was the only issue that would have been addressed then I would
have saved my flight expenses, attorney fees, and vacation trip by simply faxing
in my pay stubs. I filed a complaint, but no legal wrong doing was found by the
state. I have not met anyone whom does not believe that Erica is acting morally.
I pray that the Lord uses me as a medium for His will. Judge Gray graciously allows
the court to be used by Erica as a medium of immorality, hatred, confusion, and oppression.
I gave her my car with the intent to provide her transportation. That was just
the right thing to do. I gave her all furniture, because it was the right thing
to do. I have proven myself to practice ethics. She discontinued making payments
on the car. I did not find out about this until 7 months after her last payment.
I had gone to Sherwood Pontiac to buy a New Pontiac Vibe and that is how I was alerted.
It was 7 months past due and there was only two payments left to make. Judge Gray’s
court supports this type of unethical activity by rewarding people like Erica and
causing hardship for people like me. Was that right for her to do this? She sold
the car and did not split the money with me. I made the down payment. She was the
primary driver. What does Erica think that the RIGHT thing for her to have done
after selling it? She should have at lease paid me back for half the down payment
and paid me back for the last to car payments. That incident ruined my credit, but
Judge Gray’s court doesn’t care about that. Judge Gray only care about what is on
the law books. I received $15000 in student loans during my 4 ½ year education at
UCA. I received $20000 during just 2 years at UALR. The tuition is less at UALR.
Most of the money went towards the household and Judge Gray said that she only had
to pay back $6000 and she has not even paid a dime of that. Over the next ten years,
she will get over $80,000 of tax free income through child support and she still
hasn’t paid a dime of the 6000. Judge Gray based the $6000 opinion on Judge Gray’s
common sense, but stood firm with the traditional rulings on other issues that made
common sense to rule otherwise. Judge Gray’s opinions reflect that she exercises
a peculiar agenda that concerns me as an outstanding citizen and moral Christian.
I reside in Maryland and should be governed by the laws of this state. The website
is http://profs.lp.findlaw.com/child/child_3.html in order to address the guidelines.
My child support amount should be based on Maryland law, but enforced by Arkansas.
I shouldn’t have to risk $1500 dollars and throw $500.00 away for plane tickets every
time Erica asks like Erica. I paid for transcripts of the February trial over a
month ago and still haven’t received the transcript. Judge Gray’s court takes advantage
of me residing out-of-town and that I have limited funds. Based of the United States
Constitution, I did not receive a fair trial. I was not judged by my peers was I
given the opportunity to present my case. I am determined for my daughter to be
the best person she can become. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was determined to influence
positive change in the justice. I am determined to influence positive change in
the justice system. I say again…Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was determined to influence
positive change in the justice system. I am determined to influence positive change
in the justice system. The mentality of Judge Gray court is a direct reflection
of what the courts practiced prior to the civil rights acts. Just because it is
the current law does not mean that it is the right thing to do. Judge Gray’s court
has proven that there has been change for good, but most things remain the same.
I have written her a letter. She called me back and informed me that she did not
even read the letter. I do no believe that the letter was filed. I would like my
case assigned to any other judge besides Judges Gray and Proctor. Being from Little
Rock, I have gained a sense that we all know each such as those from small towns.
It is common knowledge and / or rumor that Judge Gray’s decisions are often biased
and tend to lack common-sense. She applies “common-sense” when it supports her personal
agenda. I am a member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity and she is a member of Delta
Sigma Theta Sorority and my mother was a member before she died at just 40 years
of age and I at 12 years of age…What have I done to deserve this mistreatment? Why
is she treating me so unjustly? I spend my own money to pay for court expenses.
I mailed my current pay stubs to the court and Judge Gray informed me via telephone
that I would have to file a motion, send it to my ex-wife and go through courtroom
procedures to accurately adjust my payments. In the meantime, she issues another
order for my new employee to deduct support from my current paycheck. She made a
new order without my knowledge. Erica uses my extra child support for her attorney,
so she has nothing to lose. I just went to court this past February and now I am
forced to go to court again. I have been blessed to get a new job, but I am making
$12,000.00 less income and paying $900.00 per month in rent. I have written this
in a letter appealing to Judge Gray. Courtroom decisions should not be based on
who you know or biased by personal prejudices and demons. I should not have to be
a member of the upper class socio-economic elite African-American group in order
to receive equal rights. I am tired of this and The People should know about this
unethical activity by her court. Her form of due process of law reflects that of
some unethical judges towards African-Americans prior to the civil rights era. Ladies
have equal rights and with those rights come equal responsibility. She is taking
the equal rights movements for both ladies and African-Americans back 50 years. How
long will you allow this very brutal abuse of authority to continue? She is an elected
official and we have spoken on the phone and I have been offensively hung-up on.
Nobody would expect to be rudely hung-up on by a publicly elected official. During
our last telephone conversation, she stated that I have violated a court order. I
kindly told her that I have no knowledge that I had done this and asked what order
that I had violated. She said that she didn’t know the order and when I expressed
interest in pinpointing the problem, she repeatedly said in a loud distasteful way,
“I AM TERMINATING THIS CONVERSATION, I AM TERMINATING THIS CONVERSATION, I AM TERMINATING
THIS CONVERSATION…” I have also served the public. I am a former Law Enforcement
officer for The State of Georgia. I have served 12 years in the US Army Reserve
receiving an honorable discharge. I am currently working for a Department of Defense
contractor. I know what it means to sacrifice. I know what it means to be a soldier.
The systems that I help develop for my employer enable the military to coordinate
thousands of air combat sorties a day, command and control hundreds of thousands
of ground troops theater-wide, and collect and analyze intelligence data from elements
at sea, on the ground, in the air and in space. I can not afford an attorney and
need your help with the following:
I need a new judge,
I want joint custody of my daughter based on the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction
I want child support to be determined correctly and fairly,
I want my daughter to continue extracurricular activities outside of school.
Thank you Sir or Ma’am. Feel free to call me as you see fit.